Summer: A Time For Fun, A Time For Civility

For those of us who grew up in and around Chicago, we know the summer days are like gold – they are in short supply, but the good ones are the best in the world. We are all focused on our own relaxation, time around the pool, at the beach, on the tennis (or pickleball) court, and just trying to make the most of the sun and warm weather. We don’t want anyone or anything getting in the way of maximizing our leisure. Here are some simple tips to make the most of those sunny days while living in an association. Practicing civility within our communities, either at board meetings or when enjoying the common amenities, can make Chicagoland summers even better. While this post is geared toward community association board members, application of the ideas below can ultimately benefit all of us.  For board members, remember that you set the tone and standard. The community views board members as that community’s representatives, wherever you are. The board member hat never comes off when interacting with residents. It’s a responsibility. The law says you have assumed the highest duty that can be imposed upon an individual. It’s serious stuff. And setting an example of civility and respect as a community leader will set the tone for the entire community to live happily and peacefully. Keeping the concepts below in mind, wherever you are this summer, even if the sunny days are in short supply, should result in a summer filled with positive experiences: 

• Treat community residents as you would like and expect to be treated.
• Listen to and acknowledge those residents who take an interest in the community. An engaged, active membership leads to a more vibrant community. 
• Speak kindly, even when that proves to be difficult. What, ultimately, is accomplished from using vitriol when talking with or about the community and its members?
• Be inclusive. Cliques are not community. 
• Accept and give praise when warranted. We all like to be acknowledged and recognized for our efforts. 
• Respect disagreements and avoid any form of personal attack or use of pejoratives. 
• Look for common ground and opportunities to agree. Don’t presume, simply because a community member is asking a question that he/or she is looking to attack or challenge you. 
• If you make a mistake, do not be afraid to apologize. We all make mistakes, professionally and personally. My life experiences have led me to conclude that generally speaking, humans are forgiving. But, one must be willing to admit and acknowledge a mistake. Accept responsibility and don’t “double down.” 
• Avoid unproductive grievances. Have a purpose to your interactions with respect to your community. This demonstrates not only respect for your time, but also the time of others. Time is our collective most valuable commodity. 

A combination of societal factors has resulted in a reduction in personal interactions (COVID, smartphones). The amenities everyone gets to enjoy only exist, however, because there is a community, not an individual. Celebrate everything about your community, including the differences in experiences we all bring to that moment. Listening to and being respectful of others, even those with whom we disagree, will, assuredly, lead to sunny days, even if the sky is filled with clouds. I hope everyone has a great summer.